I can't answer your VPS provider side of the question, but in my grub I use:
GRUB_CMDLINE_LINUX_DEFAULT="noplymouth loglevel=4 fastboot acpiphp.disable=1 pcie_aspm=force vt.handoff=7 i915.fastboot=1 nopti nospectre_v2 nospec mem_sleep_default=deep nouveau.nomodeset=0"
# Aug 16/2018 - i915.edp_vswing=2 comes from Ask Ubuntu Dell XPS 15 9350 screen flickering:
# https://askubuntu.com/a/1064747/307523
# Aug 11/2018 - 10% performance boost eliminating Meltdown & Spectre support:
# "nopti nospectre_v2 nospec"
I left some of the grub comments in this answer in case that helps.