After a while looking around , I decided to do a fresh install but making backup of data is so boring! so i didn't do anything, grub works fine. theme is changed to Kali but core is fine.
by using Ubuntu default desktop environment, I have removed Xfce and many extra packages installed before. then by cleaning up the system I installed them again. errors are gone and system works fine. the only problem is Software center which doesn't work at all. but don't worry, synaptic is here.
sudo apt-get clean
sudo apt-get autoclean
sudo apt-get update
sudo apt-get purge xfconf xfce4-utils xfwm4 xfce4-session xfdesktop4 exo-utils xfce4-panel xfce4-terminal thunar
sudo apt-get autoremove
sudo apt-get -f install
sudo apt-get install xfce4
sudo apt-get install xfce4-goodies